‘Many hands make light work.’ Nothing was ever truer than when planning a wedding. During the run up to your big day, it’s understandable that you’ll be asking for help from friends and family in order to get everything done. Of course, when you give someone a task, there’s always a small chance that they’ll get a little over-excited and start making decisions for you…
First thing’s first, try and be patient with parents who are becoming more and more involved in your wedding day plans (even if they’re driving you a little mad!). 99% of the time, they’ll simply be doing what they think is right and trying to help you out.
Ah, parents. We love them, but they are notorious for getting carried away with their children’s wedding planning. They’ve been known to add people to the guest list without consulting the bride and groom, insist on using their friends as suppliers, or offer advice (read: criticism) to the couple’s overall vision of the big day. To top it all off, they often use their financial contribution as weight in influencing decisions.
Gently pull the naughty, offending parent to one side and make sure they know how grateful you are for their support. Tell them that while their opinions are very important to you, it would be nice if some decisions were left up to the engaged couple – tread carefully and be sure to point out all the help they’ve already given you. Remember this is a huge deal for them too (their little girl is getting married!), and if they’re working part time or not at all, they’ll feel even more like they want to help lift some of the stress from your shoulders.
Although all the decisions for your wedding day ultimately lie with yourself and you hubby-to-be, including your families will be appreciated. Consult with them about special family traditions or anything they feel could add to the uniqueness of your wedding. Under all the bossiness, you’re likely to find that they all simply want to be involved in creating the perfect day. Be thankful that they want to help and be delicate in your dealings with them when you think they’re overstepping the mark. All too often it’s easy to stamp your feet with frustration and snap at anyone who crosses your path, but understanding that everyone is simply hoping they can help is a bit of a comfort when you feel like chaos has ensued, so don’t alienate those closest to you!
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